未婚の女性は、「マザコン」を旦那にすべき理由とは?

理想の人生を生きるコツ
 
こんにちは!
お喜楽道です^^
 
 
あなたは、
 
女性ですか?
 
男性ですか?
 
 
今日は、
 
女性の方向けのお話ですが、
男性のあなたにも役に立つお話です。
 
 
1月2日に、
 
こんな番組をやっていました。
 
 
「母と子の絆を確認」
 
というもので、
 
今日は、この番組から
インスピレーションを受けたシェアです。
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
私は、
 
女性が結婚相手に選ぶなら、
 
「母親と仲の良い男性」
 
を選ぶといいと思っています。
 
 
 
というのも、
 
 
男性の母親に対しての態度は、
 
結婚後、あなたに向けられる態度と考えられる
 
と私は考えているからです。
 
 
あくまで私がそう思ってるだけなので
1個人の意見として受け取っていただけたらと思っていますが、
 
 
この世の全ては、
 
バランスが取れて存在しています。
 
 
 
例えば、
 
母ー父ー自分(男)
 
という一家があったとして、
 
まぁ、私の家がこうなんですけど、
 
 
成人して、
 
結婚をするとすると、
 
 
結婚相手(女)ー自分(男)
 
という図式になります。
 
 
そうなると、
 
同じ空間には、
 
母ー父ー自分(男)
 
ではなく、
 
結婚相手(女)ー自分(男)
 
ということになります。
 
 
でも、
 
 
母ー父
 
この存在が空間からいなくなっても
自分からいなくなるわけではありません。
 
 
別のものに姿を変えて存在しているという考え方があります。
 
 
私の母は、
 
すでに4年前に亡くなっていますが、
 
母が注いでくれていた愛を
 
今、代わりに注いでくれているのが、
 
彼女だと思っています。
 
 
また、
 
私の父は、埼玉の実家に住んでまして、
 
私は、年に何回か顔を見せに帰るだけです。
 
 
 
そうすると、
 
父親代わりと思える存在や父親を感じさせてくれる存在が
普段の私の生活に出て来ます。
 
 
もしくは、自分自身が、
父親に似てくることで父からもらっていたものを補います。
 
 
これ、抽象度が高いかもしれないので
受け取れない方が多いかもしれませんが、
 
 
 
要は、
 
人が変わっても、
 
同じ性質を持つ人は、
 
自分の人生からは消えないってことなんですよね。
 
 
 
ってことは、
 
 
私のように現実的に母がこの世から去ってしまった人でなくても
現実的に、一人暮らしや結婚をして母から離れた時に、
 
母という存在を他に求めることになるわけです。
 
 
それが、
 
彼女という存在であり、
 
結婚相手ということになります。
 
 
 
もしかしたら、
 
今まで、母から100%もらっていたものが
自分の生活が変わることで分裂して、
 
結婚相手の女性が半分を担い、
 
 
母の死と共に、
 
だんだんと100%になるのかもしれません。
 
 
もっと言えば、
 
子供が生まれたら、
 
母、妻、子供(女)
 
という形で3分割するかもしれません。
 
 
 
このように、
 
1つの性質が色々な人を介して
表現されるわけです。
 
 
こう考えると、
 
男性からしたら、
 
母と妻=同じ存在
 
と考えられるので、
 
母に反抗をしていた人は、
 
結婚しても母に反抗してたのと同じように
妻にもきつく当たるかもしれません。
 
 
 
もっと言えば、
 
浮気癖のある旦那を持つ母を見て
育った女性が、
 
なぜか浮気癖を持つ男性と出会ってしまうのは
ちゃんと意味があるんです。
 
 
妊娠中に男性の浮気が多くなるのは、
ちゃんと理由があるんです。
 
 
こういうの、
 
全部私は、今して来た説明で
解明できると思っています。
 
 
 
まぁ、伝わらないかもしれませんけどw
 
 
結局、
 
「母親に対して、仲の良い男性
=いわゆるマザコン」
 
 
これは、
 
 
なよなよしたイメージがあって、
女性からしたら嫌な存在に映るかもしれないですけど
 
 
あなたが、
 
幸せな結婚生活を営んで行きたいなら
 
「マザコン」こそ、
 
旦那に迎えるべきなんだよ
 
 
ってことが伝われば良いなと。
 
 
 
あ、ちなみに、
 
「マザコン」っていう言葉は、
 
 
誰が考えたのかわかりませんが、
 
 
「マザーコンプレックス」
 
ってことですよね、多分。
 
 
だとしたら、
 
 
この言葉を生み出した人の意図があるわけです。
 
 
私が、その裏を考えるとしたら、、、
 
 
 
1記事にいっぱい書いても情報量が多くて
脳がショートしちゃうかもしれないので
続きは、次回の記事で書きますね〜〜
 
本日もあなたの人生が軽やかでお喜楽なものになることを
心から応援しています^^
 
 
 
 

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